How can you truly change, if you are unwilling to put in effort? How you apply yourself matters doesn't it? Can you go through the motions on your job, in your marriage, etc... and still have an expectation that great things are coming your way? Why allow things to crumble then complain about what has crumble but yet you have done nothing about what has or is crumbling? Why do you settle for the minimum life has to offer? Are you scared of hardwork? Why does everything have to be easy in order for you to pursue it? When do you grow up and fight for what is yours? If you live your life without effort I can pretty much guarantee you a mediocre life.
